What is a Trophy Husband?

Everyone knows that a trophy wife is a hot young gold digger who becomes the second or third wife of a wealthy older man. If you remember the movie The Big Lebowski, think of Bunny Lebowski, portrayed by a then 23-year-old Tara Reid.

But is there a male equivalent? Can a man become a trophy husband?

Yes, a man can become a trophy husband, but the term is more complex than a trophy wife. There are 3 different ways a man may become a trophy husband, and in this article, we will break it down and explain the meaning behind each one.

Let's get started!

 

The Young Trophy Husband

 

Much like the trophy wife, the young trophy husband is sexy and desired by women his age, yet he elects to become betrothed to an older, wealthier woman.

Why?

The benefit to this trophy husband is that he has a sugar momma who actively finances his luxurious lifestyle; a nice home to live in, a fast car, fancy clothes, fine dining, and a favorable cash allowance to do with whatever he pleases. (Like playing poker with his friends.)

In essence, the young heartthrob trophy husband is a gold digger, much like his counterpart, the trophy wife.

Often, the rich older lady whom he agrees to marry is a MILF, cultured, powerful (like a politician, senator, judge etc.) or has connections that make life exciting.

This is often true in the dynamic between a wealthy man and a young trophy wife as well.

While trophy husbands are rarer than trophy wives, being young and beautiful can certainly fetch a high price in the marketplace of marriage.

Some older women find great joy in spoiling their young, sexy husbands, much like the wealthy old man who loves showering his young beautiful wife with gifts and luxury.

As long as it's consensual, who are we to judge other people's lifestyles, right?

 

The Stay-at-Home Dad Trophy Husband

 

When referring to a stay-at-home dad, the term trophy husband can be used endearingly or pejoratively in heterosexual and homosexual relationships. Some men may smile when they hear it, others may become angry and upset.

Stay-at-home dads are typically men who volunteer or are forced by circumstances to stay home and watch the kids while their career-driven wives or partners earn steady, often attractive paychecks that are usually more than what they were making.

Because their wife has a good job and is bringing home more pay, the gender roles are reversed and the man performs all the tasks that were once traditionally done by women: take care of the kids, clean the house, cook dinner (probably a vegan dinner) etc.

While some men who embrace traditional values may scowl at the idea, stay-at-home dads are becoming increasingly more prevalent in American society and many are championing the dynamic as rewarding, positive and socially acceptable. The term trophy husband here is a celebration of that.

Wives may refer to their stay-at-home partners as trophy husbands because they are effectively financing the relationship and funding the household exclusively.

On a case-to-case basis, wives may call their husbands a trophy husband out of love and respect, or out of disdain and resentment. It can go either way.

On the flip side of the coin, wives might not call their husbands that at all. Sometimes it's the husband who proudly calls himself a trophy husband, in a satirical and sarcastic sense.

However it can be said, stay-at-home dads are often called trophy husbands.

 

The Mr. Right Trophy Husband

 

The third camp of trophy husbands is the Mr. Rights of society; men who gallantly ride up on a white horse and sweep their women off their feet, only to further woo her by becoming the greatest husband she could ever imagine.

The true American hero trophy husband is a man who treats his wife like a queen and values their marriage and partnership to the point where it is obvious and understood that he does so.

"I got my trophy husband," a woman proudly and endearingly says to a crowd of her friends and family as she lovingly pats her husband on the chest.

She doesn't say this because he's a young dreamboat (although he could be handsome.) She calls him her trophy husband because she feels loved, respected and cared for, and she loves and respects him equally in return.

In response, he may lovingly refer to her as his trophy wife as well, even if age has battered her once beautiful and lively appearance. (Or maybe she's a GILF.)

They are the happy couple; the perfect couple that are rare and mysterious gems.

Because so many men cheat on their wives, act like jerks, and treat their wives like crap, to find a good man is indeed a trophy.

 

BONUS: The Asshole Trophy Husband

 

While we covered the young stud, the stay-at-home dad, and the perfect trophy husband, we can't forget about the asshole trophy husband.

The asshole trophy husband is a man who doesn't do much for his wife and treats her with little or no respect. He's not actually a trophy husband, duh.

He's messy, drinks beer all day and forgets to take the trash out even after being asked 3 times. He watches dirty movies with the bedroom door opened for the kids to see and practices his filthy pickup lines on his wife's best friends.

He's a proud asshole.

She may mockingly call him a trophy husband out of pure sarcasm or bitterness.

He, in turn, may refer to himself as a trophy husband in a self-deprecating or sardonic manner, knowing that he is a good-for-nothing man but finds amusement in false titles and theatrics. It's dark humor.

He is the Homer Simpson who brandishes a 'Father of the Year' award, while Bart is burning down the neighbor's house and little Maggie hasn't eaten in two days.

 

The Bottom Line

 

Trophy husbands are either young heartthrobs, stay-at-home dads, or the perfect husband that many women dream of but often never find.

Also, trophy husbands can be men who are anything but trophy husbands, but get a kick out of calling themselves that because they know it's not true.

"Trophy husband" is usually used lightheartedly, sarcastically, or self-proclaimed, so it isn't typically viewed as an offensive term in social circles, although it is officially considered informal and disapproving slang by definition. So be careful how you use it.

So, are you a trophy husband? Let us know in the comments below!

Whichever trophy husband you are, you can rejoice in knowing that you are not alone. There are many trophy husbands out there just like you!

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